Ok RWP fam. I haven’t planned out this post, but I have lots of feelings so I’m going to just go for it.
For years I have been on the journey of figuring out my life. Any self-aware person will say this, and whether you realize it or not, you’re on a journey. Your moving through your life, making choices, making changes, and getting to wherever you want to be going. You may be consciously push forward towards your dreams, or you may be recognizing that you need a rest, and taking that rest. The thing to understand is that everyone is on a journey, like you are, but that no one is on the same journey. No one’s journey looks like yours, and no one will be sharing their journey in the same way, if at all.
I believe the thing a lot of people don’t take the time to understand is what someone is going through, and how to approach them about it. The Internet has provided a place for anyone to share anything, and for anyone to judge and criticize anything. For someone to share what they’re going through, and to take steps to transparency on the Internet is extremely brave! To open up about what is going on in one’s head and heart is vulnerable and deserves to be heard and understood, no matter if you agree or not. It is perfectly ok to ask questions, it is perfectly ok to disagree, and it is perfectly ok to say something. BUT I do believe it is important to think about how to start these conversations before taking action. Not happy with what someone said? Ask questions and look for understanding before pointing a finger. Think someone is being “fake?” Maybe start a conversation and ask for background before making a judgement.
Living life with empathy is something a lot of people are really losing sight of. In my years of working at Apple one of my deepest takeaways is that every customer (and employee) I interacted with was living their life, was on a journey, and I had NO CLUE what they were going through. It was important for me to approach them and their circumstances with complete openness and understanding.
I am working hard to open up with others, with the world. I am reaching out to others and connecting, and welcoming others to reach out to me. It won’t be perfect or pretty all the time, and I definitely don’t expect everyone to align completely or understand perfectly. That’s ok. I am so proud of the people I get to call my friends and family who are so open and authentically themselves and aren’t afraid to share it with the world! I am happy to say I am surrounded by friends and family who love me, support me, and have seen what I’m sharing and are beginning to open up themselves! I was shaken by something yesterday, and found myself on the edge of a spiral downward, but was reminded that for each person that reaches out, but doesn’t make an effort to understand you there are countless others who are cheering you on, and are joining along on your journey while they are on theirs.
So you keep doing you! Keep on keepin’ on, live your life as your true and authentic self, and the people who are like you will be drawn to you, just like you will be drawn to them! Before you know it you’ll be surrounded with love and support, and will be there for others in the same way. The people who aren’t understanding you or are putting you down are ultimately projecting something on to you that is going on in their own lives. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with themselves.
Again, this is something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently, and I would love to hear what you have to say about it!